Maria: "If you face the question of where to find a surrogate mother, post your announcement on web sites, for example, www.surmama.com. dedicated to surrogacy or medical problems of infertility. There you can meet people, who also need a surrogate mother, listen to the views and recommendations of those for whom the surrogacy program has already become a solution of the problem. Also view the available offers from women who decided to become a surrogate mother. In this case, you are carrying out the selection of a surrogate mother independently; probably, you will find a suitable candidate for a surrogate mother.
On-line method of searching is not always good. In my opinion, if you need a surrogate mother, announcements in the newspapers are more likely to help you with your search, because there are a lot of women who have decided to become a surrogate mother, but do not have access to the Internet. Accordingly, they do not have all the variety of information which may have a woman, who has already worked as a surrogate mother. Services of inexperienced women may be cheaper - you can offer less than some ladies for whom surrogacy program becomes an alternative profession are asking on the web sites. It should be noted that a surrogate mother in Moscow may be a bit more expensive.
Being guided by my own experiences, concerning where to find a surrogate mother, through the Internet or other media, I will try to specify the way me and my friends has gone through; I will tell about how we carried out the selection of a surrogate mother.
When the task to find a surrogate mother in Moscow (or rather, outside its territory) was set, we began to look for a surrogate mother through newspapers with advertisements. In general, the scheme looked like this: we have chosen the route (basically, our direction, so it would be closer and easier for the potential SM to reach us), and looked up in the reference book "Moscow Address", from what metro stations buses or taxis leave to the closest to Moscow cities. We considered a maximum distance of 300-350 km. We also planned to visit one or two cities on the bus route for one day. We were getting out at the stations and buying local newspapers with ads in stands. We went by the addresses of editorial offices and left our ads there. There are different reception conditions of ads in various newspapers. The content of the ad (surrogate motherhood) is not reflected on the possibility of its publishing. In some places we had to pay, but these amounts were not big; in some places our ads were taken for free. Most often we paid for a few ads so that they would be published several times during a month or two.
Then I decided to call around editorial offices of some newspapers, found in the Internet, and few of them where accepting free adds, taking the text via the phone. A few of them offered to fax or e-mail invoice for ads through the savings bank, which possibility I also took.
In the advertisement "I am looking for a surrogate mother" I usually very briefly described the requirements for the candidates for the role of surrogate mother (age, presence of children, Rhesus factor). I didn't name the amount of payment, because after calling and finding out candidates’ places of residence, the amount of payment could be named according to the distance of residence.
As for the phone, for this purpose it is better to buy a separate mobile phone (for example, one provided by Megaphone, in which all incoming calls are free). It is better not to involve your phone into these things, so you will not have to change it afterwards. Because you will get calls on the old ads even in 3 months after its publication, when in fact you no longer need it. You will certainly get responses on any advertisement related to the surrogacy.
ven if you eventually pick up the surrogate mother via the Internet, in other words there is a suitable candidate for a surrogate mother online; I do not recommend turning down other women, who will call you for a long time after the ads publication, once you have decided on the candidacy. After all, there are different situations, so it is good to have a few more candidates in reserve. Information about what questions to ask and on the volume of the SM candidates’ examination has already been published on the site.
